Monday, July 18, 2011
Scapegoat Grandma needs to know: should I respond to result of hearing?
Husband and I were Legal Guardians for our young grandchildren (ages 5 & 6) from Sept. 2006 until March 2011, because parents were divorcing and not getting along. The children actually lived with their parents most of the time until June 2009, when father told mother he was leaving her for his mistress. Grandchildren moved in with us until one of their parents could get their act together. Both were messed up. March 2010, Father filed a petition to end our guardianship. We fought giving them up as we did not trust that father (our son) had truly changed, as he claimed. He is an alcoholic, drug addict, liar, cheat and thief (though only arrested and charged with 2 DUIs) and had just married his third wife before he was 30. We live on opposite coasts of the U.S. During the summer of 2010, grandchildren told us and many others (Child Protective Services, Sheriffs, 2 therapists and others) their parents had abused them horribly. (Imagine psychopathic behaviors and words.) We fought the petition as best we could. Unfortunately, the only way the father could get the children was to mount an offense against me, their grandmother. He convinced the court appointed therapist I am crazy and made the children lie about the abuse and put unthinkable words and ideas into their mouths and minds. I never did (nor ever would) do such an abusive thing to my precious granchidlren (nor to anyone). There was no evidence to support these allegations. Actually, if these allegation were true in my opinion I should have been sent to jail for child abuse. Instead, the court used the report to get the children out of the court system and back with a parent. Mother is even less able to care for children and doesn't really want to. Here is my dilemma; these lies are in the court record now. Should I write something to the court in response to defend myself? Is all this going to come back at me if I want to get a job working with children, again? I used to be a school teacher. Will it seem like I am guilty of I don't respond? (We had a lousy lawyer who only told us not to respond to any allegations over the months and at the end. I don't trust him one bit so I didn't ask him.) What do you think I should do, from your own personal experience and knowledge?
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